It's What YOU Make It

We are in control of the outcome inevitably. No matter who we think is to blame the only one we should be upset with is ourselves. Our outcome is intertwined with the many decisions we make within our days, We choose to be angry when we're stuck in traffic or we choose to turn the radio on to an upbeat tune and dance. It's all about know yourself, your limits, your boundaries and adapting to suit whatever comes our way.

Who wants to be acquainted with a glass is half empty person, the one who always rains on your parade? No one. What good does it do you in bickering about the boss or your in-laws, it doesn't change who they are or how they treat you. There's a truth in"kill them with kindness". Instead be the only one who cares, make it all about them because our best topic of conversation in ourselves right, ask them about their lives "How was you vacation?", "How's your knee doing since surgery?" I'm currently ready.... well more than one book but the book I'm talking about is ":How to Win Friends and Influence People" a remarkable read in all it's simplicity. I realized I possessed a lot of the traits without realizing their worth. The motto of this book "Be GENUINELY interested in OTHER people". Simple enough right? But in our day and age where it's so easy to get lost in your own world it's challenging to look outward and be empathetic about anyone.

So we take each day in stride and true our best to be our "BEST" selves. Kindness not only makes the other person feel good but it lightens your heart. I think it quite a chore to stay in a slump, I don't feel good about myself, I'm no good to anyone grouchy and unpleasant and I NEVER get that time back; the time that I wasted being miserable.

We say to ourselves "Well when I get a house or when I get married or when I'm rich I'll be happy" and when we get these things guess what we still aren't happy. Why is that? same said reason of you decide to be unhappy.

I've been married almost 7 years now which isn't that much compared to some but it's not that difficult to stay committed to the vows we made because we were give the secret to marriage's success and that is "Love is a DECISION of the WILL" When you really and I mean really listen to those words and let it sink in it's saying "I CHOOSE to love you  no matter what" when we decide it's a selfish thing now and what can I get out of marriage is when the problems occur. As I said earlier " Be genuinely interested in other people", so if you go throughout marriage never asking your spouse about their day at work or home, how they are feeling about different hurdles marriages face and really sit and listen to each other well there's always counselling but it really boils down to the DECISIONS YOU MAKE.

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