Bumps and Bruises, Oh My!

So we all went to the park yesterday and my son recently got the hang of riding his bike with no training wheels was riding like the wind all grins and so proud of himself when the joy was broken by a crash and a scream. It broke my heart to see him on the ground and Lord knows I didn't want to see the outcome of the fall, I was just praying nothing was broken. And as my husband and I ran toward him, me with daughter in hand as he raised his head the blood made it look worse than it was, thank God no stitches were required. 
"I'm never riding again", " I shouldn't have come were the things my son said when he settled on the ride home from the incident. We tried to encourage him to ride again, that when you fall you get up again and it's all part of life. But how do you really console a child when they feel betrayed by gravity. The number of bumps and bruises and cuts we've been through since he's been born, well we've lost count but it's part of life especially with boys who think they're Spiderman. Children under 5 are so brave and hopeful and the sky's the limit, it's sad when that's broken.
Well it's a new day and his spirits are back and he was on his bike again riding around the house, swollen lip and all. He's such a trooper. You may not be able to remember every bump and bruise but you do remember the most traumatic. 
When any child falls I see the moms face look like they fell too. It's hard to see them suffer but you know you have to put on a brave encouraging face so they don't freak out more than they already are.

"I Was Really A good Mom Before I Had Kids"

So I stumbled upon a Godsend of a book that made me feel like I wasn't completely bonkers for feeling the way I do sometimes " I Was Really A good Mom Before I Had Kids" by Trisha Ashworth and Amy Nobile is not a conventional read but it is however comforting. So we've been blessed with these wonderful children however they come with no manual and moms are only human and the worst of thoughts come into our heads when the children are whining, the car won't start, the food got burnt and we have a diner to go to tonight and didn't get time to shave. Being a woman comes with its own complications add husbands, children, family life to the mix and it's total chaos.
The book shows the grin and bear it attitude that a lot of moms adapt without really addressing the issue itself or admitting to themselves how they truly feel as they went around asking moms if they were feeling like they were losing their minds. It's a humorous spin on a serious subject of how women suppress their feelings to keep it together. I must admit I am generally happy and grateful, but being around two people under the age of 6 all day long with no adult talk until my husband comes home makes me want to scream after at least 3 days straight of the same routine with no breaks.
One minute you're carefree and have all the time in the world and the next you're responsible for this little person and their needs a lot of the time with no experience whatsoever. Your job description has been extended to not only mom but, nurse,counsellor, teacher, chef, maid and the list goes on. It's easy for women to lose their identity and sense of self along the way as their me time is limited or non existent. So don't judge the women that go to the spa and the salon to be taken care of to be on top of their grooming. Jealousy isn't cute so just spread the love ok people????
So all in all the book just lets us know not to be to hard on ourselves, we do the best we can and we're not alone.
So go out and read it if you feel like you're alone in crazyville. We all have our days. so It gets a thumbs up from me.

Being A Stay at Home Mom Is A Bad Thing?

After all the changes we've gone through, wars we've fought, rights we've achieved over the years you would think the close minded and judgmental ignorance would be set at bay, well guess again. I can't count the number of times I've been asked the dreaded question "So what do you do?", of course I pause and act dumb because I'm mustering up the strength to hear the beat around the bush insults I usually get  "I stay at home with the my daughter" I would answer and the face will turn like a scoff. I know it's negative to expect it but it"s happened so often I have to get myself out of the default. It can go either of three ways " Oh" like it was the most disappointing answer ( what did they want me to say "I work in a secret government agency????") or the go off on their life like" Oh well I just started my own company a few years ago and I had to travel to Paris to meet with the CEO of ......"  or a half hearted but with a quizzical look "That's nice". Why on earth would anyone want to make someone feel guilty for being with their children? You blink your eyes and poof it's their graduation, or wedding day and then you're left to reminisce on the the day they first walked or spoke or the cute things they did as a child.

Don't get me wrong I am human and sometimes I want to pull out my hair because I haven"t had an adult conversation all day, me time seem obsolete but I love them like my right arm; they"re here to stay, they're part of me and we do a lot together. 

So I just recently joined a network marketing company in hopes to make some extra money and I had to endure my up-line basically berate me on not being able to get out there because we have no babysitter and that she's been a business woman since she was 20, he husband a  dentist and she has four children and made it work ( her children were teens btw except her son  but you get my drift) I hate when people compare their lives to yours as means to some sort of solution to your issue.

It's not considered successful if you're at home taking care of children for some reason, it's better suited to the masses you work a 9-5 and all your salary go into childcare. Some people choose situations because it's better suited to their lives. Why should any mom have to explain themselves or look down on anyone for being any different. 

I love my being a mom; mystery goo on hands, sticky kisses ,funny moments and all. I can't remember life before them and I can't see my life without them. I try to live a balanced life and I try to be the best mom I can be and at the end of the day I'm doing it for them no one else.

Positive Thinking

There is so much to be said about all the content out there about being positive and staying focused on goals (where you want to be), that make you ask yourself the real question of "why?" until you get the real answer "I want to be happy". we're faced with mundane ritualistic behaviors that set us in a time warp of doing the same thing every day and as humans who have a short attention span we just go into autopilot and drone through the day. Well I say no more !!!!!
I've always said everything happens for a reason, one thing is always a stepping stone to something else. Upon being introduces to the secret ( I must admit I was open minded and took the good from it) , the main message is BE POSITIVE. Think of whatever you desire in a positive light focus on it day after day set a time for yourself to have it and it will. As majestic and far fetched as it may seem to the die hard pessimist in most of us how happy are you looking a everything in a worrisome it's never going to happen  way????? Watching that movie opened so may doors of knowledge and like subjects or book like "Think and Grow Rich", "The Power of Positive Thinking" and the list can go on and on but the point is the world really is our oyster and we can achieve anything we put our minds to. Isn't that amazing!!!!! We think of ourselves so minute and insignificant and yet we are capable of far more than we give ourselves credit for. So I ask you the question "Where do you want to be in the next 10 years?" Don't think small like $10,000 a month or having a Suzuki Swift (which is a great car) but think a mansion in France, financial freedom and a Ferrari. "But that's so far fetched" you say. Is it really? What makes you different from Madonna or Jim Carrey who started off with nothing and are now millionaires? A dream? Hard work? Yes all that comes into play. How can you steer a ship with no destination? 
So make goals, have dreams, make them count because you're worth it. My journey has just begun and I want you to begin your too. At the end of the day you'll feel like you're living for a purpose and that anything is within reach once you want it badly enough and trust that you deserve it. Who wants to sit at a desk at a dead end job building someone else's mansion for them while you're despising yourself and your life and cause a chain reaction of bad things to occur in your life. When you find yourself slipping back into old habits listen to a song that makes you happy or to a motivational talk, whatever lifts your spirits and remember why you're doing this " Because you want to be happy" I want you to be happy. 
SO LET'S DO THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!