Being A Stay at Home Mom Is A Bad Thing?

After all the changes we've gone through, wars we've fought, rights we've achieved over the years you would think the close minded and judgmental ignorance would be set at bay, well guess again. I can't count the number of times I've been asked the dreaded question "So what do you do?", of course I pause and act dumb because I'm mustering up the strength to hear the beat around the bush insults I usually get  "I stay at home with the my daughter" I would answer and the face will turn like a scoff. I know it's negative to expect it but it"s happened so often I have to get myself out of the default. It can go either of three ways " Oh" like it was the most disappointing answer ( what did they want me to say "I work in a secret government agency????") or the go off on their life like" Oh well I just started my own company a few years ago and I had to travel to Paris to meet with the CEO of ......"  or a half hearted but with a quizzical look "That's nice". Why on earth would anyone want to make someone feel guilty for being with their children? You blink your eyes and poof it's their graduation, or wedding day and then you're left to reminisce on the the day they first walked or spoke or the cute things they did as a child.

Don't get me wrong I am human and sometimes I want to pull out my hair because I haven"t had an adult conversation all day, me time seem obsolete but I love them like my right arm; they"re here to stay, they're part of me and we do a lot together. 

So I just recently joined a network marketing company in hopes to make some extra money and I had to endure my up-line basically berate me on not being able to get out there because we have no babysitter and that she's been a business woman since she was 20, he husband a  dentist and she has four children and made it work ( her children were teens btw except her son  but you get my drift) I hate when people compare their lives to yours as means to some sort of solution to your issue.

It's not considered successful if you're at home taking care of children for some reason, it's better suited to the masses you work a 9-5 and all your salary go into childcare. Some people choose situations because it's better suited to their lives. Why should any mom have to explain themselves or look down on anyone for being any different. 

I love my being a mom; mystery goo on hands, sticky kisses ,funny moments and all. I can't remember life before them and I can't see my life without them. I try to live a balanced life and I try to be the best mom I can be and at the end of the day I'm doing it for them no one else.